Went Dancing

Met Lilian and her French frens to go chiong. Didn't want to go at first cos i dun have anything nice to wear for going to clubs. i travel very light for last week business trip and my clothes are mostly business wear. But i went anyway, she is the only gal and it's quite dangerous. Somemore she said her angmoh fren's brother is quite cute and wanna introduce to me.

Have not danced for a long time. But boy, this club we went to was quite hip and fun. Wah, i was quite popular leh. There's quite a couple of French guys trying to hit on me. The dancing's really fun. But i think me too conservative cos i get uncomfortable getting too close if i dun know the person well in advance.

The brother's quite cute but clubs are not the place to meet someone serious la and i am not looking for flings.

Lost my Passport in Paris

Checked into the hotel last afternoon to realise that i have lost my passport. Was so worried.... I still had my passport with me when i was waiting for the train at the St Quentin Station. So the passport must have been lost either on the railstation or the metro. Retraced my path to the metro and asked the lady on duty for help. Stupid women. All she can say is sorry, there's nothing i can do. *#$#@. Asked her to help call the main station to check and she can only say "i dun know.....i can;t help you. you have gotta go look for police..."

So i went to look for the police. And they just take my statement at the police station and tell me i can go. So i ask them aren't they gonna ask me for more information like where i last lost sight of my passport etc so that they can help me find my passport. And the clerk just say, you have gotta go and look for your consulate #%$*&@) upon which i ask them for the tel. number and the idiot said, you have gotta check the internet. I tried again and ask him if perhaps he may have the rail station number which i can call myself to check. He said sorry he dun have and i just gotta check the internet myself.

Thus in the end, i went back to my hotel to check the internet for the consultate and main rail station contact number. The service staff i called was really helpful. And gave me both the metro and rail station number i can call directly to check. Luckily someone found my passport and had returned it to the main rail trainstation. I was so so so relieved.

Passed by a beggar inside the metro tunnel. Felt so glad to have found my passport i gave him all the euro coins i have with me.

P/s: While checking the net and calling the train station to check, met a fren on line. Was really glad to meet someone to share my frustrations and anxiety so proceeded to describe what happen only to have my sentence cut off with "okok" after i reveal the railstation just confirm that they have found my passport....You know, okok = stopstop, you dun have to continue...

But i have not even really started...there's no one here and i just wanna share my experience and frustrations mah.

even my good fren is mean to me. this is really not my day.

Dun kick your fren when she is down OK?

思念, 早在离别前开始

A Previous Post

Sometimes, I feel a little lonely

Sometimes, I am so busy I dun have time for my loved ones

Sometimes, I think of people I should let go

Sometimes, my heart will ache

Jean

18^th August 2004. cold and tired and missed the last train and had to walked back to hotel from office.

Meeting Ex for Lunch

Do you believe that there is energy in our thoughts? I suddenly dreamt of my ex today and woke up to find his sms. It was one of those forwarded smses to wish me good morning. We exchanged some messages and he suggested for us to meet for lunch. Wanna pass me the present he had got for me for my birthday.

It was nice meeting him again. He’s still the same and we chatted like old frens…our work, his mom and sisters, my mom and family, friends we both knew, my life in Europe etc. It was like old friends who had not met for a long long time. He still treats me like he used to, buying food for me, asking me if I wanna try his drinks, folding the tissue paper for me….

When he asked if anyone bullied me at work, I suddenly felt like crying. Dunno why, maybe these few days had been feeling blue and things happening at work had not been particularly helpful. But I just smile. I must be strong.

Anyway, the carrot cake at AMK was really nice. I really appreciate the cheap and nice food we have in Singapore!

I think I am quite vain. Cos I have been feeling quite cheerful the whole day after he remarked to me in a sms that I have grown prettier. Heehee.

Moving On

22nd August 2005

去年的今天

我生日的第二天

我与他分手了

想了很久, 才做了那个决定

不是因为他又是有事, 不能为我庆祝

而是, 想了很久, 努力了很久, 累了

事业, 真的那么重要吗, 要那么忙吗?

感情, 真的还在吗?

我, 还存在吗?

Somebody

Heard this song today while playing an old CD compilation of my favourite songs. Somebody by Depeche Mode. It's funny how some music always brings back memories of a certain period of your life. Some one from long ago used to sing this song to me.

I want somebody to share
Share the rest of my life
Share my innermost thoughts
Know my intimate details
Someone who’ll stand by my side
And give me support
And in return
She’ll get my support
She will listen to me
When I want to speak
About the world we live in
And life in general
Though my views may be wrong
They may even be perverted
She’ll hear me out
And won’t easily be converted
To my way of thinking
In fact she’ll often disagree
But at the end of it all
She will understand me
Aaaahhhhh....

I want somebody who cares
For me passionately
With every thought and
With every breath
Someone who’ll help me see things
In a different light
All the things I detest
I will almost like
I don’t want to be tied
To anyone’s strings
I’m carefully trying to steer clear of
Those things
But when I’m asleep
I want somebody
Who will put their arms around me
And kiss me tenderly
Though things like this
Make me sick
In a case like this
I’ll get away with it
Aaaahhhhh....

Appalled

This hasn't been a good week for me. I am feeling down today again. Dunno if i will have a depression soon. Things that appalled me and are further condoned by people who should have better judgement makes me sick.

Maybe this is my character flaw. I should learn to be more detached to all things.

Loneliness

Yesterday i felt so lonely. It just came suddenly. Though i dun think it's because i am here alone in Frankfurt, the cold weather here sure doesn’t help. So i checked the net to find out why one can feel so lonely like I do and I found some interesting articles. Below 2 links has the best to offer. One explains why one feels lonely and the another tells you how to fight it. Anyway, i dun feel lonely today.

Loneliness

http://mentalhelp.net/psyhelp/chap6/chap6m.htm



Self-help methods for reducing loneliness:

http://mentalhelp.net/psyhelp/chap6/chap6n.htm



Some Extracts:

* "Level V (unconscious factors): Jules Henry (1971) observed, "People are lonely because they are vulnerable and they are vulnerable because they are alone; they are vulnerable when they are without love and they are vulnerable when they have it." Almost everything that threatens us makes us aware of our aloneness. Example: the more we need others for protection (and the more we distrust our protectors), the lonelier we feel. So if we are threatened by an economic depression, by a collapse of our government, by the failure of Social Security, by war, by unemployment, we feel alone--we fear abandonment. Splitting with others over political, economic, social and other issues increases our aloneness. This may seem abstract, but Henry points out that we are vulnerable to failure every day. The fear of failure confronts us in school, at work, in sports, in love, etc. When we face failure--like taking a test--we are alone and we feel needy. When we run away from stress, we usually run alone..."



* "......But we will always be lonely because we need and want more from others than they can give..."



* “…understood that men were forever strangers to one another, that no one ever comes to really know any one... Which of us has known his brother? Which of us has looked into his father's heart?... Which of us is not forever a stranger and alone? ...we escape it (aloneness) never, no matter what arms may clasp us, what mouth may kiss us, what heart may warm us. Never, never, never, never, never..."

And i can remember so many instances when i felt this dreading feeling. Like this scene below:

We were mostly quiet,
all the way home where he gave me a ride
both were quiet
each in a world of his own
i miss him so much!
he was sitting just next to me
yet it feels so far........

Motivation

I have been doing leg exercises and sit ups every morning since i returned from St Tropez cos i want to be lean again. But i stopped since 2 days ago. It's really quite boring and there's no motivation at all! i hope my office have some cute guys then i'm sure i'll have the motivation to work hard. kekeke.

Sunday, 7th August

Woke up at 1pm today. Yesterday was a long day and i had returned to hotel in the wee hours. Now i have a cold. Took 2 panadol for cold but it doesn't seemed to work. So i warmed a bottle of chicken essence which a friend had so kindly sent to me few weeks back. I don't really like the taste of chicken essence but it is supposed to make your body stronger.


Went to BBQ at Sue Mee's house yesterday. It was very kind of her to invite me. The BBQ was quite fun and Sue Mee's cooking was superb. Her friends and friends friends were an funny bunch of people too.


Was quite tired at the end of the day. But Alice who was supposed to send me back to my hotel kept asking me to join them at this "Asia Party" at Franfurt city. Didn't really feel like going and actually i had planned to wake up early so that i can visit the muesum tomorrow. But somehow, with Elena also joining in to persuade me, i decided to check out the place.


The disco was very crowded and have many vietnamese and Chinese, and a couple of ang mo. Very interesting. And the crowd was quite crazy too. One of their frens, whom we met there was quite crazy so it was quite entertaining for me. Most of the time, i just sat there watching people. It was really interesting.

Remembering

去年的这个时候， 我与他分手了

因为大家都变了, 也不能回到从前了

然而, 有许都的回忆,依然佑新

我记得大二那年, 初见的那一幕

记得下课后,一起散步回宿舍的那一幕

记得第一次,他唱歌给我听的那一幕

记得考试期间, 不读书 反而坐在SRC,聊到天亮的那一幕

记得我俩初吻的那一幕

记得他说爱我的那一幕

记得第一次分手难过得不能呼吸

记得坐在 President Lodge 的梯极一起看星星的那一幕

记得他很认真的对我说认识我是他来南大最大的收获

记得他对我说我是他的Little Princess可爱的那一幕

记得他常为我炒的爱心炒饭

记得他给我取的那么多外号

记得喜欢静静的看着他

记得很快乐很快乐过

记得很难过很难过

记得突然发现他变了的那天

记得发现自己好象也变了的那个早上

记得无数次的分手

记得无数次的不舍得

记得很寂寞很寂寞过

记得说过很伤人的话

记得每次"争执", 他都是静静的那个表情

记得分手那天

记得 很多很多

Is there any painkiller for heartaches?

Trapped

I want to run and run and run and run

and run and run away

But i am still

here

10th July

Something a friend did makes me turn a little cold inside today.

CE

I know i must
practise CE

I know i must
betray no more
anything

But i can't seem
to rid it off my mind

One day, i surely shall
but meanwhile
i carry it with me.

jean.silly me feeling sad.:(
may 11th 3.13 am

MUSM

My heart died a little each day.

Back in Frankfurt

What a week!

Reached Abbeville on Sunday night. The train ride was 6 hours to Paris and another 3 hours to Abbeville. Abbeville is a small town at the northern part of France. Nice and quiet and near to the coastal part of France. I was dead tired when i finally arrived but my customer was very nice to come and fetch me.

Went to Le Touquet for dinner after meeting on Monday. Le Touquet is a "Parisan Beach" according to my customers. It is supposed to be a popular beach for parisan and there are many tourist from Paris and London there. (London is just opposite the Channel)

Will upload pic when free cos too tired liao

Saturday Afternoon in Frankfurt

It is 3.40pm in frankfurt now and i am still in the office. The office is located within the city shopping district and from my window, i can see all the big boutiques outside. Just directly outside my window is the Rolex and Patek Philippe watch gallery. And there's Gucci down the street, and Aigner and LV ....All the big brands, all so expensive....can only do window shopping here.

Anyway, i'll rather be doing window shopping than to be stuck here. But there's still tons of work not cleared and issues which are brewing and which i have not really looked into and i think they are gonna explode soon. And i have a few meetings in France next week and i have not prepared yet. So, i will be stuck here for the rest of the day.

Just bought a train ticket earlier in the morning for tomorrow's journey. Really last minuite. But the notice was very last minuite too. The customer heard i was in europe.Great, he said, can you visit us next week. Frankfurt and France are neighbours, but not exactly close too. I checked the net for air tickets but the cheapest air ticket cost like 500 over euros just for an hour flight to paris. so i decided to take the train. The intercity train to Paris and a connecting train to the town where my customer is located . 8 hours to my destination. but 190 euros only. :)

I dun think i can accomplish my ambitious action items today. Think i better get back to work!