Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Take a Break

What do you when things seems to be getting out of hand?
 That you only have this limited amount of time but everyone and everything seems to want a piece of you.
These days, i'll just deliberately slow things down.
People and all sort of daily demands just have to take their queue number.

Sometimes, i'll drive somewhere just to be alone and to take a breather. Other times, i'll turned my phone to silent mode so that i can get some real work done. And occasionally, i'll just write down my thoughts.

The other day i checked, 40 over phone calls a day and people screamed frustrations that they can't get me? Sorry, but i'm not a call center. I'll try my best but meanwhile, you just gotta take your queue. How can i get anything done if i don't pull the plug and manage all these craziness?

I read that multi tasking really undermines our efficiency. My experience tells me it's true. And studies proved it's true. Here's an interesting extract from the article Is multi-tasking bad for your brain? Experts reveal the hidden perils of juggling too many jobs to share here.

" ... Professor Miller, for one, is highly wary of the multitasking lifestyle. ‘People can’t do it very well, and when they say they can, they’re deluding themselves,’ he says. ‘The brain is very good at deluding itself.’

Not only does multi-tasking affect our mental clarity, switching between tasks also makes us less efficient.

An American study reported in the Journal Of Experimental Psychology found that it took students far longer to solve complicated maths problems when they had to switch to other tasks - in fact, they were up to 40 per cent slower.

The same study also found multitasking has a negative physical effect, prompting the release of stress hormones and adrenaline.

This can trigger a vicious cycle, where we work hard at multi-tasking, take longer to get things done, then feel stressed, harried and compelled to multi-task more.

Studies by Gloria Mark, an ‘interruption scientist’ at the University of California, show that when people are frequently diverted from one task to another, they work faster, but produce less. After 20 minutes of interrupted performance, people report significantly higher stress levels, frustration, workload, effort and pressure. ..."

So, this says it all. Don't be worried if you can't do many things at one time. And dun try too hard or panic about it. It's not realistic to begin with. You are doing fine.  :)

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

To Be Known Without Saying Much.

Fren was telling me about his excitement looking forward to getting his new apartment key. I told him i really envy him, of which he asked me to quick go get married too. So i asked him to send some nice guys along if he come across them and he just tell me

..impt part is ur heart bah...
if its still closed..doesnt matter how many thousand nice guys i send ..."
I was a little surprised by his reply. I never tell him much and wonder how he can sense this of me. And i recalled what a good friend remarked just last week,

"'s really kua zhang...i means the guys swarming after you...beyond my imagination...and i think like dat u also cannot find someone u like..." 

To both responses, i just laughed. Told my friend i'll make a concious effort if he'll just do his job.

Anyway, i am happy. I am happy that i have friends who don't need to know much but somehow can sense me. Isn't this one of the greatness joy in life. To somehow be known without saying. :)

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